5 First Date Faux Pas You Must Avoid
By James Preece
Do you wonder why your first dates never see to lead to second ones? Disappointed that you don’t hear back from them again even though you were sure everything went well? Then perhaps you are making one of the most common dating mistakes singles make that blows their chances!
As a leading Dating Coach one of the biggest complaints I hear is that people just don’t know how to act on dates. If this is you, then I’ve put together some useful dating advice about the first date faux pas you need to be aware of.
Asking them out
You could be failing at the first step without even realising it. The way you ask them out is very important and you have to word it carefully. If you aren’t clear that it’s actually a date then it can be confusing. Is it a date? A business meeting? A friendly meeting? A catch up? If you aren’t sure then you can’t expect them to be either. Ask them out as directly as possible.
Never be late when you are meeting someone for the first time. They will get nervous and the longer you let them wait the more anxious and irritated they will become. If you can’t be bothered to turn up on time then it looks like you can’t be bothered for a relationship. If timekeeping isn’t one of your good points then leave the house earlier than you’d planned to compensate for this. Of course, things do happen outside your control. If you really have to be late, keep them updated by text, then apologise profusely and buy them a drink as soon as you arrive. If you do this, chances are high that your error will quickly be forgotten.
There are so many faux pas when it comes to manners that I could probably write an entire article just on that. Dating is all about respect and you need to demonstrate this with good behaviour. It’s the little things that are important as well as the big things. For example, pay compliments and thank them for meeting you. Men should (usually) pay the bill for the first date but the women should at least offer. Manners apply to everyone you see during the date, not just towards the person you are meeting. You could be amazingly considerate but be rude to a waiter and you’ll ruin everything.
Spending more time looking at your phone or eyeing up the serving staff than you look at your date is a guarantee for failure. Your job is to get to know them and make them feel special. This involves lots of eye contacting, smiling and conversation. You need to make them believe they are the most interesting and important person in the room to you.
Your date went well but both of you are afraid to contact the other first in case you look too keen? So neither of you will do anything and you’ll always wonder what happened. The truth is that you both liked each other but assumed they weren’t interested. You really do have to follow up and tell them how much you enjoyed meeting them and want to do it again. If you don’t then you might never hear from them again….all because of your mistake.
Now that you’ve read this guide, you should be better equipped to ensure your first dates go smoothly. If you’d like more help there are lots of great dating tips and tricks on our site. Do check them out now!
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