An Unlikely Romance: Do Opposites Really Attract?
By Top10BestDatingSites Staff
Is love in the air for Nicole Scherzinger and younger man Ed Sheeran? The Daily Mail reports that they have struck up an “unlikely” romance after her public break from Lewis Hamilton last year. But is it really that unlikely? Although on the surface it may come as a surprise, once you’ve given it a bit more thought, and put aside the age gap, doesn’t it make almost perfect sense?
Slipping into Cynicism
It’s well known that celebrities often date one another, and public forums such as Datalounge are full of the most cynical reasons why they do. Here are just a few quotes detailing the common conceptions we’ve seen about fame attracting fame.
“Can you trust a nobody if you are rich and famous; that they are really in it for love and not what they can get? If I'm rich and famous and I marry someone who is rich and famous in their own right then I don't have to worry that they are riding on my coattails.”
“A famous partner can provide a massive career boost”
“many people hook up to either cover for their homosexuality or to grab an extra headline or two. Managers love to pair up their clients.”
But surely it seems far more likely that celebrities marry other celebrities for the simple fact that they have a ton in common! Similar career choices, similar personalities, similar lifestyles; these are all important factors in choosing a match.
Capitalising on Compatibility
Websites such as eHarmony know all about the importance of similar lifestyles and outlooks when it comes to compatibility. That’s why they offer the chance to fill out an extensive personality profile questionnaire before you get started. Matching users based on the scientific 29 dimensions of compatibility, they understand that it’s not just about finding someone who lives nearby, or is in the ‘right’ age bracket.
Here are a few of the types of questions you can expect when signing up with eHarmony or other dedicated compatibility matchmaking websites like Elite Singles.
How often do you find yourself laughing?
If you were taken on a date to a party where you knew no-one, how would you respond?
What is your attitude towards work?
What is your view on your partner having opposite-sex close friendships?
These types of questions all have one thing in common, as relationship coach Rachel Lay comments, they focus on finding “a deeper level of shared values that keep [you] solid and incredibly compatible”. After all, while “having shared interests is important…shared values will strengthen the foundation of your relationship immensely.”
Showing up for Shared Values
Shared interests and a similar personality are whether you like doing the same things, great for a first date where you can bond over your hatred of Celebrity Big Brother or fill the awkward silences with a montage of your favourite Breaking Bad moments, but not that relevant in the long run. Sure, you want to find things you can do together, but as long as there is mutual respect over what you both love, having varied interests can be a strength rather than a weakness, giving you more to talk about at the end of a long day. After all, partners who are too similar may find that they accentuate each other’s weaknesses as well as strengths. Would you want to match with an overly stubborn partner if you yourself find it hard to compromise?
Shared values are something altogether different. Do you see the world in the same way, do you want similar things from your future and your lifestyle and how you interact with the world around you? This is what personality quizzes and compatibility questionnaires like the POF chemistry predictor quiz are looking to match you based on, and why they have such a high success rating.
The “unlikely” alleged celeb pairing of Ed and Nicole, or in fact any celebrity duo doesn’t seem so unusual to us at all, with them both enjoying similar celebrity status, and therefore likely valuing fame and public recognition, as well as creativity and the arts, not to mention the lifestyle similarities of being ‘on show’ all the time and leading a hectic schedule always in the spotlight. Actually, we think they would probably hit quite a few of those 29 dimensions of compatibility!
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