Does Long-Distance work for Lesbian Online Dating?


Lesbian online datingBy Top10BestDatingSites Staff

Most Lesbians who try online dating know full well that the pool of Lesbian singles in one area can be limited. This is especially true when you’re looking outside of the US, and even more so if you are seeking a Lesbian connection outside of a capital city like London. Sometimes it may feel like you have no choice other than to widen your geographical search.

What kind of Lesbian relationship are you looking for?

Long-distance matchmaking is not a realistic option for most lesbians looking for anything casual. A hook-up or a “take things slowly” initial meeting just doesn’t equate with travelling hundreds of miles down the motorway. If you are looking for something less serious, try not to broaden your search parameters too far. Think logically about how far you are willing to travel to meet your match, and don’t let curiosity allow you to broaden your search past that limit.

A recent survey found that in the search for romance, more Lesbian singles are looking for that magic component than any other demographic, at around 38%. This means that most Lesbian singles are looking less for the next one night encounter and more for a real relationship which could be leading to love.

In that case, here are some questions to ask yourself before you broaden that location-based search criteria.

Lesbian love from afar

Long term goals are an important consideration before you get in too deep with any Lesbian singles online. Are you committed to living in a certain area, or would you be willing to relocate? Can you afford the travel costs of visiting someone from out of your vicinity, and do your work or family commitments allow for it? These are all important practical considerations.

Also integral to the survival of long-distance lesbian dating are the emotional considerations. What kind of time and effort do you expect your partner to put into making the relationship work? How often should you both visit, can you find the time to video chat or talk on the phone every day? Importantly, can your relationship find a way to manage without the physical side of things for long periods of time?

Making Lesbian dating work from a distance

If you are both willing to make the effort, geographical distance shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Here are a few great tips to help make the distance less great.

  • Use technology to your advantage: You met on an online dating website, so you should both be pretty tech-savvy. Use the inbuilt functionality on your dating website, such as instant messaging, audio or video capabilities and inbox messaging to keep in touch as often as you both can. Mobile devices such as tablets and phablets can usually access apps such as Skype via WiFi, so that you can connect on the go even when your schedules don’t match or there’s a time difference involved.

  • Be creative: More thought is needed when embarking on a long-distance relationship than one close to home. Send love letters through the post, plan surprise visits or even parcels to send when you can’t be there yourself on a special occasion.

    Try not to get drawn into the same “how was your day” conversations that often happen when you’re limited to phone contact. Think of sexy or surprising questions to ask to keep her on her toes, even without you physically there.

  • Communication and honesty are key: This is true in any lesbian dating situation, but never more so than when you’re dating from afar. All the emails, text messages, phone calls and skype chats can’t replace real face to face conversation, and feelings often get lost in translation. Don’t leave emotions to fester unspoken, and speak up if you’re feeling unsure or lonely, chances are your partner is too!

Make sure you’re talking often about where the relationship is going and how you’re managing your long distance expectations.

Lesbian online dating can be a smaller than average pool of singles, and it is tempting to widen your search outside of your town or city. Make sure you have considered the difficulties that long-distance lesbian dating will create and whether you have the practical and emotional tools in place to deal with them effectively and enjoy a committed and fulfilling Lesbian relationship from afar.


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