Free Sites Vs. Paid Sites


Free Sites vs Paid Sites

By Lames Preece

When you are choosing an online dating site then the choice can sometimes be overwhelming. There are so many different ones and each costs a different amount. If you are unsure, then it’s only understandable that you might be hesitant to spend a lot of money to begin with. You might therefore be tempted to sign up with one of the free sites instead.

As a leading Dating Expert I can tell you this is almost certainly a mistake. If you want to be successful meeting a partner then you do need to open your wallet. Here is my expert advice on the subject which I hope will help you make an informed decision.

Safety and Security

The biggest problem with free sites is that anyone can set up a profile in seconds. They can pretend to be anyone they like and even change sex if they feel like it. Paid sites have much better security and teams of staff looking out for you. They will spot timewasters and scammers before they’ve even had the chance to contact you. Unfortunately, free sites just don’t have the budget to pay their staff to be as thorough.

Think about your safety. Do you really want to be meeting people that haven’t been vetted properly?

Message quality

From my experience, messages on free sites tend to be a lot shorter than on paid sites. This is because they know they don’t have to put as much effort in. So you’ll find you get inundated with low quality messages like “Hi how r u?” or “Wossup?” These are copied and pasted over and over until someone finally writes back.

This can become tiring very quickly, especially for the women who get hundreds of similar emails a day.

Free isn’t really Free

Yes, it might not cost you anything to send and read messages. You have to remember that the “free” sites don’t run just out of the goodness of their hearts. They need to generate income to make it worth their time and cover their costs. The sites aren’t free but what the industry calls Fremium. What this means is that you’ll constantly be bombarded with adverts for other products, in the hope you click them and spend money there instead. Or if you want to find out if your message has been read or do anything remotely advanced you’ll have to pay for that, too.

Serious Members Only

People who pay for online dating services tend to be much more serious about relationships. They know that if everyone is paying for a service then they aren’t going to waste your time. Most are looking for long term relationships and you’ll find the average age of members is older – usually 30s plus.

Serious members only

Free sites have lots more timewasters, with men looking for one night stands rather than marriage.

Professionals Pay

For similar reasons, the vast majority of people who use paid sites are going to be professionals. The quality will therefore be higher as they will be well educated and have better manners. Professionals are more likely to be able to afford paying for a membership.

If you are a professional yourself then you’ll want to meet someone of a similar background.

So my advice to you is to always choose a paid dating site. You’ll have a much better user experience and your chances of meeting someone are higher. Having said that, you really don’t need to spend a fortune to start with. Choose one that you’ve heard good things about and start with a one or three month membership. It’s only a small expenditure for what could result in huge rewards!

If you’d like some help deciding which one is right for you do check out our fabulous reviews here on the site.

About James Preece

James Preece is the Dating Guru. As the UK's leading Dating Expert and Dating Coach he is a consultant for many dating sites and is involved in a wide variety of different areas, such as personal dating coaching, Online Dating, speed dating and matchmaking. His online dating guide "I Will Make You Click" is an Amazon best seller, reaching number one on the relationships category. He is a regularly featured in top UK and international media: such as the Independent, Cosmopolitan, FHM, and Men’s Health, amongst many more. Learn more here.


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