How to Keep The Spark Alive


Couple hugging on grassBy James Preece

Most relationships start out well. Unfortunately, few of them last. There are various reasons why the spark fizzles out. Maybe the excitement dies down, or perhaps there are underlying issues that never get worked out.

As a Dating Expert, I know that building a relationship takes time. Whether you’ve been a couple for two weeks or two years, there are lots of things you can do to help keep the spark alive or reignite it if necessary.

Here are my top tips to help you make it happen.

Work on Trust

A happy relationship has no time for lack of trust. Of course, this takes time to build but the more you do, the stronger you’ll become. Start by being honest and don’t keep secrets. Keep your partner confident and always be as open as possible about what you’re feeling.

Give Each Other Space

Spending every minute together is nice but it’s also a sure way to make one of you feel smothered. It’s only natural that if you are in each other’s pockets, you’ll start to find faults and criticize. The biggest gift you can give your partner is the opportunity to miss. You don’t need to be afraid to hang out with your friends and see your family once in a while. Your relationship can also grow in the times you are apart, so enjoy these moments and don’t feel guilty about it.

Communication is Key

It takes two to tango and to make a relationship flourish. If one of you has a problem, then it’s up to the other to listen completely and try to help. Talking through issues is the only way to work through them. Any feelings that are not dealt with will grow into larger issues. Make sure to speak out and listen when necessary.

Communication is key

Mix Things up

If you become complacent, the magic will dissipate and you’ll both get very, very bored. That’s because you keep doing the same things, going to the same places and living the same life over and over again. Spice things up as much as you can. Do things differently, book some fun trips and eat at new restaurants. These little things create new memories and strengthen your bond.

Never Forget to Date

The most important piece of advice I can give you is to never ever stop dating. If you start to take each other for granted and not make time for yourselves, the attraction may begin to fade. I recommend that at least once a week you set time aside for each other for a date night. You don’t even need to go very far – just take it in turn to make sure the other person feels special. Relationships are two-way streets and it’s up to both of you to make it work. As long as both parties really want to make it work there is no reason why the spark can’t stay lit forever. You both just have to appreciate one another and put in sincere efforts to keep the relationship interesting. The rest is just details.

I hope you found this article useful and you are able to follow the steps. If you’d like to find out more about getting a date or what to do on them, please check out our advice section here.


About James Preece

James Preece is the Dating Guru. As the UK's leading Dating Expert and Dating Coach he is a consultant for many dating sites and is involved in a wide variety of different areas, such as personal dating coaching, Online Dating, speed dating and matchmaking. His online dating guide "I Will Make You Click" is an Amazon best seller, reaching number one on the relationships category. He is a regularly featured in top UK and international media: such as the Independent, Cosmopolitan, FHM, and Men’s Health, amongst many more. Learn more here.


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