How to Survive a Holiday Romance
By James Preece
When you go away on vacation, it can be a perfect opportunity to meet lots of new people since you’ll be much more relaxed, positive and happy than normal, too. If you are lucky, you may find you click with someone special and everything seems wonderful but the difficulty comes once you part and make your way back home. If you live far apart then staying together may seem quite a challenge. But don’t worry! Here are my dating expert tips to make sure you have the very best chance of keeping the relationship going.
Before you even think about how to make the holiday relationship work, do have a good think about whether or not you really want it to. How compatible are you really? Do you both want similar things in life and do you know them well enough to keep it going? Quite often you may decide that the memory of the times you shared together is much better than trying to force things in the real world.
We are very lucky to live in a world of modern technology, which helps brings us all closer together than ever before. Not only do we have Facebook and mobile phones but Skype as well, and this allows you to not only talk as much as you want, but also see each other. Thanks to technology it couldn't be easier for you to keep getting to know each other regularly. Ideally, you’ll want to have some form of contact at least once a day.
Keep Your Options Open
It can be tempting to fantasize about the future, the next time you meet and how you’ve found “the one” and how wonderful it will be. At the same time, you’ll probably cut off all the other possibilities you might have had or close down your online dating profile which would be a big mistake at this stage. You don’t really know what might happen and you may never even see them again. Therefore, keep your options open and you won’t have time to be disappointed if things don’t go as planned.
Try to Meet Quickly
I know you’ll naturally want to do this, but try and meet up face-to-face as soon as you can possibly do so. That’s the only way that you’ll know for sure if you really do have a future together. Life away from cheap cocktails and beautiful sunsets will be much different than you imagine and you’ll know soon enough if you are compatible. If one of you dreams of settling down and having children but the other has no intention of this and wants to play the field, it’s in both your interests to call it quits.
Trust Each Other
If you do choose to give your relationship a go, you will both have to learn to trust each other since there’s nothing worse than one of you hiding secrets or being keener than the other. However, the problem is that trust has to be earned and rarely comes quickly, and so you both have to be as honest as possible and work hard to try and show them how much they mean to you.
Remember that even if things don’t work out with this person, there are thousands more possible people out there for you who are closer to home. If you’d like to find out where they are, do check out our online dating advice section.
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