The Crucial Rules of the Office Party
By James Preece
It’s that time again – Christmas party season. This can often involve a special event with everyone you work with. As a relationship coach, I know that while this is something many people look forward to, it can also be a night you might well be dreading. You might worry about making a fool of yourself or get stuck with someone dull.
Here are my expert tips to make you have a great party without any embarrassing moments!
Get your Outfit Ready
This is your big chance to shine. It doesn’t matter what you wear during the working day, you absolutely need to dress up and make a great impression. Choose an outfit that you feel both sexy and comfortable in, get your hair cut and SMILE. There will probably be lots of people you don’t know, so you want them to notice you for the right reasons.
Make an Entrance
The best way to this is to walk in through the door slowly, stop and take in your surroundings and then walk in with a big grin. This isn’t just so you will get noticed but so you can familiarise yourself with what’s happening and the best places to go. Where’s the bar? Where’s the toilet? Where’s that hot guy from accounts that you’ve been trying to talk to for months.
Watch what you drink
Many parties have free alcohol so it can be tempting to make the most of these. Unfortunately, booze can really make you say and do things you wouldn’t normally dream of. One drink leads to three and three leads to ten before you even know what’s happening. So before you start grinding up against the boss or dancing the conga on your own, ease back on what you are drinking. It can really help to drink a glass of water between each alcoholic drink you have and do make sure you eat enough food.
Body Language Counts
If you want people to approach you at the party, you have to display positive language that shows you aren’t a threat. Do this by uncrossing your arms and keeping your palms face up. That’s a sign that you are friendly and open to talking to someone new. Oh and when you are talking to someone, take a look at where their feet at pointing. If it’s at you they are enjoying the conversation but if they are pointing away they could be getting ready to escape. Keep that in mind if you aren’t sure about saying hello to someone who appears to already be talking to someone else.
Make your Excuses
If you do get cornered by someone that you want to get away from, you don’t need to stay and be polite. Simply make an excuse that you need to visit the toilet and you’ll catch up with them later. Or say you have arranged to meet someone but it’s been great to chat. Life is too short to waste time and you need to be socialising with the people you are attracted to!
Keep it Private
If you are lucky enough to hook up with someone, don’t do it in front of your workmates. There’s nothing worse than being the subject of office gossip for months on end. In the era of Social Media it’s very hard to keep anything secret anymore. So if you are getting on with someone, don’t start kissing them on the dancefloor or get caught in a broom cupboard. Leave the party and go on somewhere else if you want to continue getting to know them.
Whatever happens, remember this is your chance to have fun. Don’t let anything get in the way of you letting your hair down and having a good time. If you do, you’ve got a whole year until you’ll get the opportunity again!
If you’d like to know what to talk about when you are interested in someone or simply get more dates for the New Year, do check out our advice pages HERE.
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